傾聽就是愛------------Listening is love

曾經我和一個朋友吃飯，在吃飯的過程中，他不斷的向我訴苦，所說的話很多都是悲觀的，負面的。我只是靜靜的去聽，眼神專注的看著他。就這樣，不知不覺講了3小時。而在這當中，我說沒幾句話。我沒有說什麼大道理勸告他。只是靜靜的聽他說。讓他將心中的不滿全部發洩出來，將心中的垃圾都倒在我身上。當要結束離開的時候，他帶著感激，愉快的心情看著我，並且一直向我說謝謝。我告訴他我都沒有安慰你什麼，他告訴我＂你能靜靜的，專心聽我講完。就是最好的安慰了。＂我聽了也覺得很不好意思。
後來我想到了幾個結論：
１‧在每一家庭，每一天，多多少少都要倒垃圾，如果2~3天沒有倒垃圾，家裏就會有不好聞的味道。如果一星期沒有倒垃圾，我想全家都會感覺不自在。
同樣的，我們人體也是一樣，每天都要正常排便，保持身體健康。如果一星期沒有排便，身體健康就會出問題了。肉體是如此，情緒也是如此。情緒也有垃圾，也是須要清理，找人傾訴也是一個好方法。
２‧傾聽別人痛苦的傾聽者，自己心裏要有一個心理準備。就是說話不要多，要多聽；不要指責，只要建議。

結論：既然要當個垃圾桶，就要知道別人丟給你的東西，一定是垃圾，你必須要很樂意的幫他處理。不可以去責備他。如果你會去責備他，那你就不夠資格去當別人的垃圾桶。也無法真正的做一個安慰者。

A friend and I had dinner, during dinner, he constantly complained to me, saying many are pessimistic, negative. I just listen quietly, eyes focused at him. Thus, unwittingly spoke for three hours. And in this, when I said no a few words. I did not say anything truths advised him. Just quietly listen to him. So that he will vent out all the dissatisfaction, the hearts of garbage down on me. When you want to end leave, he took gratitude, happy mood and looked at me, and I have to say thank you. I told him I did not comfort you what he told me, "You can quietly, listening intently I finished. Was the best consolation." I listened to feel very embarrassed. 

Then I thought of a few conclusions: 

1 ‧ In every family, every day, more or less have to empty the garbage, if two or three days without taking out the trash, the family would have a bad smell taste. If a week without taking out the trash, I think the whole family will feel uncomfortable. 

Similarly, our body is the same, normal bowel movement every day, to keep the body healthy. If a week without a bowel movement, physical health will be a problem. The flesh is so emotional as well. There are also emotional garbage, but also need to be removed, but also a good way to find someone to talk to. 

2 ‧ painful to listen to listen to others who have a mental preparation to himself. Do not talk that much, to listen; Do not accuse, just suggestions. 

Conclusion: Since you want to be a trash can, you should know that someone threw something, it must be garbage, you have to be very happy to help him deal with. Can not blame him. If you go against him, then you do not qualify to become someone else's trash can. Can not really make a comforter.